Instead of making marriage your mission, make it God’s global cause and the advance of the gospel where you are, and look for someone pursuing the same.
Get plugged into a ministry in your church that’s engaging the lost in the local community.
Intimacy is the prize of marriage and not of our not-yet-married relationships—intimacy is never safe anywhere outside of a covenant. But it will cover every forgiven sin and cast it as far as the east is from the west, into the very deepest, most hidden and forgotten parts of the sea (Mic. Your past sexual sin cannot overcome the sovereign love displayed for you at the cross, and it cannot keep you from pure, blameless, and everlasting joy.
Grace doesn’t undo the sins we’ve committed, but it redeems them and makes them work for our good. That is, if you will believe in the one who took on your sin for you, even your sexual sin, and if you repent and pursue his purity by his grace in his strength. You bought the gifts, made the memories, and dreamed your dreams together—and it fell apart.
Some of a single person’s darkest days fall after a breakup. Now, you’re back at square one in the quest for marriage, and it feels lonelier than square one, and further from the altar because of all you’ve spent and lost.
To the brokenhearted and afraid, God says, “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine.