Stadil’s experience — more than an excellent plotline for a rom-com, Hollywood please call him — runs counter pretty much everything we think we know about how online dating works for straight men. And yet, stories such as Stadil’s would seem to suggest that the odds straight men face in the Tinder “numbers game” are even longer than anyone thought.Not long before Stadil published an essay about his experience, researchers published the first paper to quantify how Tinder use differs by gender.(Both of those things impacted swipe-rate in Tyson’s study.) Part of that is also sending opening messages that contain more than “hello” or “hey,” which make up a quarter of all Tinder openings.
Men are more likely to accept date invitations from strangers; they almost always send the opening email or message.“Ideally, this would be personalized.” That doesn’t lend itself to Tinder spam.Stadil, for one, has learned his lesson — although he doesn’t consider his experiment a total failure.Several apps have tried to disrupt this indeterminate feedback loop, with varying success.Bumble, the project of Tinder exile Whitney Wolfe, only allows women to make the first approach — effectively killing the dude mass-swipe spiral.That doesn’t mean he’s planning to publish the code for his Tinder bot, mind you.